If our goal is to dominate our mind, life and our own future, must operate effectively, when apparently, we do not have any say in the matter? The answer is simple: simply play according to the rules, but we have not made them. If win is to progress as far as possible towards our dreams and goals, how much more time and energy we have available for that purpose, before it will be possible to achieve what we seek. Struggling against the system we lose time and energy. Perhaps we tend by nature to circumvent the system and we can succeed, but only in the short term. In the long term, we lose. We will lose credibility, authority, money, image and up to the employment or the affective relationship. Each time that fight against a system that we can not change or dominate, we carry the lose. If We decided to stay in alien territory, we can only win playing according to the rules of the place whether we like them or not.
Givens also tells us to consider that when we work on the orders of another and we want to succeed in our employment, experiencing the satisfaction of receiving promotions and salary increases, our only possible strategy is playing according to the rules of the company or the Chief. It may ours be correct or best, but that doesn’t matter. Our goal is to win. And if win, for one, is getting promotions and salary increases, gain credibility and gain the trust of those above, we will have to obey rules that we did not. You can choose between win or prove that we are right, but rarely can do both things at the same time.Finally, take into account, that trying to change the rules in territory outside is a game that we cannot win; everytime we try there will be a price to pay. That price can be anger, frustration, depression or something worse. It can cost us time, money, credibility and even employment. Still playing in alien territory, of course, we can choose.
We can pick up our ball and go home. If we don’t like the head, we can renounce or request a transfer. If the negative side of a relationship weighs more than the positive, we can cut that relationship. If we don’t like speed limits, we can stop driving on these routes or not more traveling by car. The fact is that, even in alien territory, the decision is ours. We can choose to stay or go.